I’m sure we have all experienced those “If only” moments, maybe not as painful as the one I describe here but moments which you can’t let go of and which continue to haunt you. New research suggests that associated introspection and self-blame are significant factors in mental health problems.
|If only I’d not forgotten my cash.
If only, if only I’d bought that new catch.
If only, if only I’d mended the latch.
If only I’d sent you to school that day.
If only I’d had the strength to say you weren’t ill.
If only I hadn’t allowed you to skive ….. you’d still be alive.
If only I hadn’t left you at home.
If only, if only I’d had self-belief.
If only I could let out my pain with a scream.
16th October 2013 – headline from the BBC
Notes: “Rumination: The danger of dwelling.” Rumination and self-blame have long been accepted by health professionals as part of the problems that can lead to depression and anxiety but new research has demonstrated just how significant and serious their impact on mental health can be. And the impact of mental health problems is huge. They affect one person in every four during their lifetime and are the leading cause of disability globally, according to the World Health Organization.
- Study finds traumatic life events biggest cause of anxiety and depression (psypost.org)
- The danger of rumination (bbc.co.uk)